A birth support person is always the primary father for your baby. They could be: your wife s current partner and co-owner. A close friend. A sister, or another close friend. Or anyone besides your wife, who has a loving relationship with you and would like to be a supporting cast in your pregnancy and birth.
When you decide that you need the help of a professional Birth Support worker, don t simply go to your local hospital or birthing center to ask for assistance. You can find many websites that offer doula support services online. You can do a quick search online for doula resources or birth outcomes from your home page, or any other page you choose. Take the time to read everything. Ask questions.
Be specific about what your situation is, i.e. are you going into labor naturally, or via a C-section? If you are having C-section, there may need to be a midwife present. Although this is a valid reason for a doula to be present, many doulas can also work without a Csection birth. In these cases, they may need to have a birth attendant.
One birth support person cannot do it all. It doesn't matter how many Birth Support people you have, it does not mean you will have an easier job. Even if everyone's on the same page, there will be challenges. Your spouse or your midwife might not be available the entire time. They might like a couple of hours at the end of the day to just help relieve some of the pressure. If you have two Birth Support people working together, it is possible that they will try to add to the level of support instead of take away from it Yoni.
Another thing to keep in mind is that there is no right way to give birth. Each person is unique and has their own experience, pace, and method. Do not compare your birth support person to someone else. You should be grateful that they are there to help you through this difficult time in your life. If they are giving medical advice, that's great! You should never tell them that you don't want to get pregnant or that your doctor doesn't think this is a good time.
If you have a plan for birth with a maternity team, let them know that your spouse will be absent during your time off. If your partner is a great person and an incredibly understanding person, he or she will understand why you need a break. Your partner can come along for the first few days of your baby's birth as long as they are not expected to assist with labor, feeding, changing diapers, or any other duties.
Remember that doula attendance can also be important. A doula will be present throughout labor and postpartum. If you are concerned about infection or pain, you might want to wait until after labor begins to have a doula present. A doula can help you stay calm if your contractions are approaching or you are about to give birth. They can also provide medical support if needed. Your doula might also be available in case you have a Braxton-Hicks Contracture (breast infection) during your postpartum period.
Your family and your soul will be your best friends during labor and postpartum. Don't cut corners when you are getting ready to welcome your new member to the family. Your doula is there for you to help you in any way you need and you must listen to their advice. Talk to your doula about your birth plan and ensure that she is included.
